Write it! Don’t just think it…

Today, feels calmer than the previous couple of days. As we, like everyone else, try and navigate this new reality. It feels like we have hit a stride. With managing the new way of doing school – particularly Matric and Grade 8. And finding a new way of co-parenting – that best supports the girls.

The thinking, however, has hit an all time high 🙂 I tend to get lost in my thoughts. Deep thinking everything my mind will wonder to. Whether it’s about us or others. And so this morning – I grabbed my journal and pen, and transferred! All those thoughts and emotions.

I have always been a sporadic ‘journaler’ (it’s a real word). Especially when it’s a significant time or event – then I’ll write about it. Since November 2019, I have been journaling more frequently. Intentionally. If not daily, then weekly.

It’s reminded me of how powerful the simple act of writing down your thoughts is. Not only is it a way to record your history, it can also help put experiences into context. It supports those moments of reflection too.

I find that it also gives me the freedom to ‘say’ the things I need to. To feel the things I need to. Which I may not always give myself permission to do with the demands of life.

During this uncertain and scary time – maybe the thing you need to do is write.

Grab a pen. Grab a book with blank pages. Decide on a regular time to write. Make it manageable. Try and find quiet moment. And just get going.

Remember – it’s not a thesis 🙂 There is no right or wrong way. There’s your way. As far as possible – try not to judge yourself while you’re writing.

There’s a wonderful line in Brene Brown’s Daring Greatly – ‘vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage‘. And I think it applies when we journal too.

I hope this encourages you, tribe,

Love,

Ray

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The magic of the Pause…

My last blog post of 2017 was about self-care and what a necessary practice it is. Read more here

My first blog post of 2018 is about the magic of pausing. The definition of the word pause is to – interrupt action or speech briefly. I feel that if we allow ourselves to pause it helps us practice better self-careTo stop the action and the speech and just take a breath. One of my tribeswoman has the word ‘selah’ tattoed on her wrist. It is the biblically used word which means to pause. She chose the word to remind herself daily to practice pausing. Love that!

I have been doing a lot of pausing. The past few weeks have brought some challenging moments. I alluded to it in my previous post. What stopped me in my tracks was being booked off with burnout. It was a hard time. I was forced to stop. I was forced to rest. I was forced to look at how I got to that place and reevaluate. I had to pause. And in doing that, to choose myself. I had to get still and consider the next right move for me.

I wanted to start the year with this reminder – to remind us that it quickly becomes a slippery slope when we don’t pause and when we don’t practice self-care.

So while I don’t have any firm resolutions for 2018,  I am very clear on self-care and pausing. I am clear on being intentional and practicing consistency. And trusting that. And always trusting Him†

I hope that 2018 is all you hope for, need and deserve. May it hold love, hope, joy and every blessing for you and your family.

With love,

Ray

 

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Flashback Friday… Look how far we’ve come!

‘Last night my girls and I spent our first night in our new home. Dinner, popcorn and Thor! All is right with the world. #Grateful #LifeWithLittleGirls’…

This memory popped up on my Facebook feed this morning. A memory from 2013! And it forced me to pause.

We have come a long, long way.

I needed this reminder. Today.

When I get focused on what lies ahead, the decisions that need to be made, daily. The juggling that needs to happen, daily. Where I think we are in our lives, the frustration that arises if it’s not where I had hoped we would be. And then the next rabbit hole is how to get us there. Quicker.

This reminder!

We are getting there. We will get there. Look at how far we have come.

One of my tribes-woman :), is a yogi and shared a wonderful encouragement her instructor uses during their classes – ‘Slowly, slowly and everything is coming’

So, today I hope that wherever you find yourself, whatever you may be thinking about your journey thus far, be gentle with yourself. Pause for a moment. Look back – to remember how far you’ve come.

And feel the gratitude that arises.

God Bless,

Ray 

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